Spoke with a friend recently whose husband was killed in a hit and run accident and we were talking about how we never know what is on our path of experience. He was there in the morning and gone in the afternoon.
She told me of the reactions of the family and how everyone had a different opinion as to what was needed and what she should be doing. He had sat down recently and told her what he wanted which included being cremated with no viewing, mourning, or funeral. He only wanted a "Celebration of Life" ceremony.
One of his daughters who lives some distance away insisted she come for a last viewing. Since that was not what he wanted, my friend said "No, don't come."
I got to thinking about that and I realized that most of us don't take action on what we should be doing to stay in touch with family or friends. We wait until it is too late and now I am sure the daughter is angry with my friend and feeling guilty that she didn't get to see her father one more time.
In my spiritual practice, the emphasis is on "now." Stay in the present moment, now is the time, there is no future - only now. I think this applies to what is going on around us too. Now is the time to take action with staying in touch with people. Now is the time to say what needs to be said. Now is the time that we take the time to see who needs to be seen. We need to make that phone call before it is too late. And we need to tell people we love them rather than not telling them at all. Or maybe it is just a "thinking of you" card and saying, "hope you are well."
This simplicity of connection is important and helps us to realize how fleeting life is and it helps us to feel good about ourselves and how we care and connect with the people in our lives. Who do you need to connect with today, if nothing else, just to say "hello?"
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